My Heart is Breaking

My husband told me tonight that things aren’t the same…that it feels like we’re going through the motions and that we’re ‘roommates’ most of the time - and roommates that don’t even really like each other at that.

This has actually been going on all summer. Vacation at Yellowstone - something was wrong, he was preoccupied, unhappy. All summer in fact, he’s been restless and drinking heavily. When I asked him about it, he would just say he didn’t know what was wrong. He just needed some space. I told him he was disconnecting from me and the family - I could feel him pulling away on a daily basis. Somewhere this summer, he moved into his office (it has a bed) permanently. Before, he would sleep in there when he was on call so that the phone calls didn’t bother me.

Obviously, I suspect that he’s having an affair. When asked, he repeatedly denies it.